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Guidelines for Parents

Conversations

The most important reason that you need to have a conversation with your child about drugs and alcohol is that they need to hear from you, their parents, that drug and alcohol use is not condoned in your family. They need to learn from their parents the consequences of drug and alcohol use.  Help us to help your children, by being aware of your own attitudes and behaviour towards drugs and alcohol. Remember that children learn and copy what they live at home.  Educate yourself about the dangers of smoking, drugs and alcohol.

Here are some suggested points to keep in mind when you talk to your children:

  • Tell your son/daughter that you love them and are worried that they might be using drugs
  • You understand that alcohol/drugs may seem like the right thing to do at times, but they can have serious consequences.
  • It makes you feel worried and concerned about them when they use alcohol and drugs
  • You are there to listen to them
  • You want them to be part of the solution
  • Tell them what you will do to help them by having very clear expectations, which will be communicated in a clear and consistent manner
  • Know that you will have this discussion many times. Talking to your children about drugs is an ongoing process


Dealing With The Addict

  • Don’t regard the problem as a disgrace, recovery from addiction is possible.  Remember that no one intentionally sets out to become an addict.
  • Don’t nag, preach or lecture. Angry accusations raise defenses and make the addict feel more guilty and ashamed.
  • Don’t use the “if you loved me” or the “after all we’ve done for you” approach.  This only increases guilt and denial.  The person behaves as they do because they are in the grip of a powerful addiction and not because they don’t love you.
  • Don’t let the addict persuade you to drink or drug with them or in front of you, in the hope you can help them control it.  This only gives them permission to continue drugging and delays constructive action.
  • Never protect the addict from the consequences of their drugging.  If they don’t face the consequences they will go on believing that drugging is ok.
  • Every parent will ask, “Where did I go wrong?”  Don’t blame yourself.  Feeling guilty is not constructive.  Whatever you did was done with the best intentions and to the best of your ability.  Whatever you didn’t do was probably because you didn’t know how.
  • Don’t expect an immediate 100% recovery once the addict enters treatment.  The risk of relapse is always a reality and sometimes part of the process. Recognize this and help the addict deal constructively with their difficult periods.
  • Don’t try to cocoon the recovering addict and protect them from all difficulties. What they need from you is your belief in their recovery, as well as your love and support.